Why ‘just don’t buy it’ just doesn’t work

As a parent, I have become increasingly consciously interested in the debate on the sexualization of childhood and gender-stereotyping.

Sexualization of childhood is not new. I vividly recall my mother refusing to let 7-year-old me buy an off-the-shoulder party dress like one of my schoolfriends. And it goes without saying that gender stereotyping has been around for longer than any of us can remember.

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The Grandparent Files: Play in 20 Years

Another pearl of wisdom came forth from my mother-in-law recently (can you guess she’s been visiting?)

So, here’s the scenario. She came to visit. She played with BabyBoy and BabyGirl. She noticed that my parenting involves teaching my children (shocker). She’s had a son. Continue reading

The Grandparent Files: You’re a Teacher!

Adding to the list of ‘did my mother-in-law really mean that’ sayings…

18-month old BabyGirl was being a bit cheeky – she was standing on a battery-operated toy. I told her ‘we use our hands, not our feet’ (something I’m saying on a daily basis right now), and when she just sort of looked at me I went over and gently moved her feet.

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Safety….versus Feminism?

Hong Kong’s Security Secretary stirred up a media firestorm recently with comments advising women to drink less alcohol in light of the recent increase in rape statistics in Hong Kong.

I’m not going to debate the rights and wrongs of a public official making such comments in this post. I want to look at this from a parenting point of view. As a parent, will I encourage my daughter to avoid getting drunk? Absolutely.

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Come on, you’re a boy…

My kids are only 18 months old and, as is normal around this age, they sometimes experience separation anxiety, and are sometimes a bit clingy to mummy.

Not that they are incapable of playing on their own, or even being left with the one or two people that I and Multidaddy trust to look after them in our absence. And they often toddle off and explore things by themselves at playgroups and on playdates.

But sometimes, sometimes all they want is the reassurance of a mummy hug. Continue reading