Monthly Archives: October 2012

Loopy Links

Loopy links

Loopy links (Photo credit: hddod)

Playgro and ELC call them ‘Loopy Links’. Bright Starts calls them ‘Lots of Links’. Whatever they’re called by different manufacturers (and there any many), these colourful, plastic, textured links which can be strung together are another extremely useful, inexpensive toy. We have about 40 distributed throughout the house, car and strollers.

Why? Because they are so versatile.

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Bath Seat Solutions

Bath seats. Useful for singleton babies. A veritable essential for twins.

When babies are very young, it is pretty much a given that you have to bathe them one at a time. For that, I highly recommend a baby bath on a stand. We did put the baby bath on the floor for a while (I was very scared of dropping a slippery baby) but that really hurts your back after a while.

Of course, a sink is also an option for very young babies.

But once baby(ies) gets a bit bigger, it’s time to graduate to the big bath. Holding one baby in a big bath (when they can’t sit in water on their own) is yet another way to absolutely strain your back. If you’re on your own with twins, not only will your back hurt twice as much, but you won’t be able to bathe them together. And twin babies are loads of fun when they’re bathed together.

The solution we have found is to utilize bath seats. I’d never heard of these before I had children but they are plastic seats with suction pads that stick to the floor of the bath. Stick seats down, fill bath with water (BabyBoy and BabyGirl are big enough for a pretty deep bath now), pop baby(ies) in and let the splashy fun begin!

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The Grandparent Files – Case 2

I find that one of the most annoying things that someone can say to a (new) mum is that baby doesn’t look like you. Or in my case, that neither of the babies look like you.

Yes, this is another pearl of wisdom that fell from my mother-in-law’s mouth during her last visit.

What is the point of such a comment? Are you saying that they’re not mine (those nine months of pregnancy would disagree)? That there’s been some sort of genetic misstep and they’ve inherited all their genes from Multidaddy? That the hospital made a mistake and gave us the wrong children?

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An interesting article… The oversimplified ‘myth of motherhood’, particularly in the nuclear-family-orientated society, is both fascinating and slightly terrifying…

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My latest article is up at Daily Life and also Essential Baby:

By sharing private and difficult moments as mothers we create a more complete picture of the reality of motherhood – it ultimately frees us all. The ugly complaints, if told wisely, can be witness to the stamina of this extraordinary relationship. But the fear in us in disclosing is palpable – that we might be frauds and that our secret moments exclude us from being good mothers. For an instant, you are unsettlingly close to the truly dysfunctional mother, and you see the dangerously fragile state that she must teeter in, and how damaging she is to her children.

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Bubble, bubble…

…toil and trouble? Ok, so this quote is a little off, but bubbles are certainly not trouble, in fact, they are another simple toy that can create hours of fun.

Even young babies will enjoy seeing bubbles drift over them. Older ones will like trying to catch them, and as they become more mobile even chase them. We carry a bottle of bubble fluid in our diaper bag for impromptu bubble sessions when faced with a bored baby (or two). They are also the source of giggles in the bath. Continue reading

Mother Knows Best

When you’re faced with a squalling newborn and you have no idea why the poor thing is crying, you would be forgiven for thinking that ‘maternal instinct’ is another myth that your real life has just exploded.

But although it took me a few months I am now convinced that mother (or whoever the primary caregiver is) really does know best.

This knowledge is not, however, instinct. Maternal instinct might make you love and protect baby, but it doesn’t decode your baby’s cries or teach you how to soothe. That, I have found, comes with simply spending time with baby and learning what each of the cries mean. It’s not a physical or hormonal thing, it’s a mental, learned process. So when you give birth you don’t suddenly have all this knowledge to hand, and you shouldn’t feel inadequate if you don’t ‘just know’ what to do.

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