My ‘guilty pleasure’ is reading glossy tabloid weeklies. Pages that I can just leaf through without engaging brain. ‘News’ which is so trivial, it is entertainment.
I’ve always said, however, that when BabyGirl and BabyBoy get old enough to notice these magazines, they will no longer be in the house. For I do not want them growing up thinking the real world is only about Hollywood celebrities, fashion and beauty aids.
But I may be throwing them out sooner, for my own sanity.
Even before BabyBoy and BabyGirl were born, I was teetering on the edge of depression. The thought of having twins terrified me, because that wasn’t in the plan. When they arrived, healthy and perfect, I tumbled headlong down the rabbit hole of postnatal depression into denial, doubt, panic, resentment at not being ‘normal’ and wondering whether escape was an option.
You will probably buy your baby’s first stroller during your pregnancy. A stroller is a key piece of baby equipment. Don’t be surprised if you amass a collection of strollers throughout your baby’s first year. This will often happen as the reality of moving around with a baby (or two) hits you. One of the most common complaints with strollers is that they are too heavy, and what does not seem too heavy in a shop often seems much much heavier when you are using it every day.
Some things to consider when buying a stroller are:
Weight – can you lift it by yourself if you need to? Up stairs? Into the trunk of a car?
Is it easy to fold? Could you fold it one-handed if you needed to hold on to baby with another? (Especially useful for airport travel.)
These are not the most flattering, but they’re 100% cotton so they’re cool and easy to wash. They have front poppers to allow you to feed (no fiddly clips to try and maneuver with one hand while holding on to a newborn). They are airy so they won’t rub against a healing c-section scar. And they cover you up (unlike strappy ones) , so you can get out of bed and lounge around the house knowing that should the doorbell ring unexpectedly or your father-in-law happen to traipse past you don’t have to struggle into your dressing gown with a wriggly baby screaming the place down. Continue reading →
Recently the question ‘Is bedrest essential during a multiple pregnancy?’ seems to have been asked a lot. It’s a question with divided answers – some doctors have a blanket policy of putting all multiple mummies-to-be on bedrest after a certain point (eg 28 weeks), others take a more relaxed approach. And there are different types of bedrest – ranging from strict (no getting up even for meals) to modified (see below).
Now whether or not you go on bedrest is ultimately a question for you and your doctor – in some cases it is no doubt needed. But strict bedrest is not a fun experience for mum, so I would urge you to talk to your doctor and make sure it is medically justified in your particular circumstances.
What is certain is that multiple pregnancies are very taxing on mum’s body. For me it often felt like my body was just not designed to carry two babies at once. My skin stretched like you wouldn’t believe. My shoulders, knees and back ached from the extra weight. A year on I’m still repairing the damage to muscles and joints.
So with all this happening, plus all the internal changes (extra bloodflow, having to nourish two growing babies etc etc) taking it easy is very important. Whatever you think you can do, half it. Chances are you will get a lot more tired than you think, even if you don’t feel it immediately.