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Discipline – some wise words

BabyBoy and BabyGirl are still very young, so we are not far along our disciplining journey yet. However, I stumbled across these wise words from a fellow blogger, which I hope to remember in the days to come:

– Three non-negotiables for disciplining your kids: disobedience, dishonesty, and disrespect.

– Allow your kids to make mistakes and learn from them while the consequences are low. (This is one of my favorite comebacks when busybodies look at me in horror as I let BabyBoy and BabyGirl explore new things.)

– Don’t be afraid that your kids won’t like you. They may not like you now, but they will like you later when they are adults. (Oh, so so true.)

– Side with your children against their disobedience. Use the words “oh no!” to side with your kids. Say, “oh, no, there’s going to be consequences for that,” or “oh no, now you’re going to have to apologize.“ (Love this idea, will be implementing immediately!)

– The disciplining process is about restablishing broken relationships. Ask yourself, how can I discipline my child in order to restore our broken relationship? (A lovely way to look at disciplining as a process rather than simply a punishment.)

The rational choice?

Multidaddy once said half-jokingly in his sleep-deprived state, ‘Why did we have children again?’

It is a question that has run unbidden across my mind at various times in the past 11 months. Not that I wish I hadn’t had children – on the contrary, as they have got older life with them really has got better – but it’s an interesting question. Mainly because I now realise that when Multidaddy and I discussed starting a family we were discussing the timing, rather than whether we should have children at all.

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