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‘It’ll change your life’ – Part 3

This is a beautiful piece of writing, with one flaw. It is not enough to say ‘It’ll change your life’ or ‘You won’t regret it’. I believe that saying things like that, without unpacking what they mean, is one reason so many people ‘stumble into motherhood’.

“We are sitting at lunch one day when my daughter casually mentions that she and her husband are thinking of “starting a family.” “We’re taking a survey,” she says half-joking. “Do you think I should have a baby?”

“It will change your life,” I say, carefully keeping my tone neutral.

“I know,” she says, “no more sleeping in on weekends, no more spontaneous vacations.”

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The rational choice?

Multidaddy once said half-jokingly in his sleep-deprived state, ‘Why did we have children again?’

It is a question that has run unbidden across my mind at various times in the past 11 months. Not that I wish I hadn’t had children – on the contrary, as they have got older life with them really has got better – but it’s an interesting question. Mainly because I now realise that when Multidaddy and I discussed starting a family we were discussing the timing, rather than whether we should have children at all.

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